Monthly Archives: September 2015

It Takes Two to Tango (Partnering for Self-Expression)


A couple weeks ago I watched The James Howard Band play at a local club. Toward the end of the night, a couple arrived and began to dance an incredible tango. I was mesmerized by their synchronicity; every move appeared to be seamless, effortless and completely in unison. The woman was incredibly elegant, leaning into her partner and allowing him to guide her every step. She looked radiant as her partner placed the beauty of her motion out on display like a fine painting in a gallery.

I was sitting with a friend who happened to have a dancing background.  At one point I remarked on how amazed I was that she knew every step her partner wanted her to take. My companion replied, “That is when you know someone is a good lead. The communication is clear yet subtle to the point of being unnoticeable to the untrained eye.” I could feel the synchronicity between them as though they shared the same pulse. It was incredibly delicate and extremely powerful. I sat in awe of their grace and beauty, as it was extraordinary to watch. The dancers’ caliber was so high, and their dancing so refined, they moved as one being, out on the floor.

Later, while sitting in prayer, I became aware that this incredible tango is very much like my partnership with God.  I have chosen to dance and I have partnered with the best lead in town.  This dance is incredible and amazing, yes; but at times I feel completely fragile and raw as I break old habits and struggle to learn new steps. My fear, vulnerability, faith, trust and tenacity have all stepped out on the floor willing to be exposed, willing to be broken down and recreated again and again in the process of divine self-expression. Some days are definitely more elegant than others; however, with each day my dance of purpose becomes more powerful. I find as I dedicate myself to practice, the subtle communication becomes clear and the steps more graceful and effortless.

This is a partnership, a co-creation, for I have chosen the dance and the music. I asked my lead to step out onto the floor with me, as my partner, guide and teacher. God cannot do this dance alone; I matter. If I refuse to get on the floor, nothing will happen. I will have no one to lean into and God will have no radiant beauty to display. I have no doubt I have stepped on God’s toes more than once, as certain moves challenge me to coordinate my mind with my heart. At times I struggle to let go of how I look, and who I think I should be. Then I experience a new freedom as I open myself to learning the steps and experiencing the nuances of our divine pairing. I am committed to practicing and refining that which I have learned, for further evolution and expansion takes place as I dedicate myself to continually unfolding.

Whether you want to dance the cha-cha, rumba, salsa or tango, what matters is that you dance! The Universe awaits your two-step as a means to bring joyous light and life to the world.


Holly Holmquist is a Day Minister, Spiritual Mentor and Speaker. Holly offers private mentoring sessions, classes and workshops. Feel free to contact Holly: website:




Sometimes in life we come up against blocks, sticking points if you will. These are the moments when I long for understanding, as I begin to doubt myself and question everything. “Is this what I am supposed to be doing?” “Am I on the right track?” “Have I missed something?” (We all have our own list of questions.)

Recently in prayer when I was asking for clarity and understanding, what came to me was, “Fuck understanding, just emerge!” In other words, get out of your head and participate, express! There is a time to understand and it comes with reflection. You must act in order to reflect. You must create in order to improve upon your creation. You can’t always know what will be next or how to do it.

This is not to say that everything needs to be a blind jump; but if you wait for all the details to be clear you will wait forever. Details become clear as you move forward intuitively. Intuition is what directs your action and leads you to a point of reflection.

I recently told a friend I wanted to clearly see the yellow brick road before I began to travel upon it. He replied, “That is not faith.” Faith is knowing the road will be laid beneath each step I make, brick by brick. Intuition is God’s way of communicating the direction in which I walk; hence co-creation.

Consider this; if we are all here to create and self-express, to emerge, maybe the sticking points are not about being on the “wrong” track at all… maybe we are just being asked to kick it up a notch. Rather than retreating, giving up or switching tracks, life may be asking us to take our self-expression to the next level. When something is our heart’s desire, we are always being asked to up-level, to evolve.

If something brings you joy, refuse to be daunted.  Who wants the consolation prize for happiness?



Holly Holmquist is a Day Minister, Spiritual Mentor and Speaker. Holly offers private mentoring sessions, classes and workshops. Feel free to contact Holly: website:



Reciprocation is defined as mutual giving and receiving. In any relationship, reciprocity plays a major role, either contributing to its success, or in the case of a lack of reciprocity, leading to the relationship’s dysfunction and demise. The universe operates best in divine flow and harmony, where give and take are equals.

Many people look for ‘free’ in a ‘give me’ state of mind, which is fine when they balance being the receiver with being the giver. On the other hand, many people who give all the time, without receiving, run the risk being out of harmony. You can receive in one area of life and give in another; but we should be careful not to abuse or deplete important relationships trying to serve others or self interests. The universe is not a tit for tat system.

You can never outgive God. You will always receive more than you give. That is the power of living in an expressive and inspiring universe: we get more out than we will ever put in. A mind focused only on receiving, or only on giving, is out of divine flow and will be challenged to fully prosper. Co-creating in divine flow requires a melodic interplay of letting go and taking in all at the same time.  When you truly surrender your cup will be full, your heart enriched, and you will have contributed to the enrichment in others.

If we wish to receive more, we must question where we are giving. If we wish to give more, we must ask where we are allowing the universe to provide. Are we taking with no intention of reciprocating? Are we giving with no awareness or allowance of the universe filling our cup through others? Let’s look at the relationships in our lives and ask if they are reciprocal. How could we benefit and accelerate the divine flow of these beautiful relationships by either giving or receiving more?


Holly Holmquist is a Day Minister, Spiritual Mentor and Speaker. Holly offers private mentoring sessions, classes and workshops. Feel free to contact Holly: website: